You Can’t Go Back Home Again: The American South and Disagreeing with Thomas Wolfe
Homecoming is such a strange and wonderful thing. Thomas Wolfe knew it; he wrote a whole novel about it (minus the wonderful part). His protagonist, George Webber, tells the reader, “You can’t go back home to your family, back home to your childhood … back home to a young man’s dreams of glory and of fame … back home to places in the country, back home to the old forms and systems of things which once seemed everlasting but which are changing all the time — back home to the escapes of Time and Memory” (Wolfe, 253).

You Can't Go Back Home Again: copper dress (H&M, $15), boots (random, $30), tights (gift), belt (thrifted, $3), necklace (gift).
I respect the brilliance of Thomas Wolfe and of all those other smartypants writers whose work I’ve examined a bajillion times. And if I were being philospohical, I’m sure I’d agree with him. But for the purposes of this blog, I say, “Shut it, Wolfe.” Because I DID go home again, and it was awesome. But please note: the house you see here is not my home. :)
Over my winter break from PhD-ness I went back to my home town in South Carolina to see my family and jam with my best friends. Even if my life has changed drastically since I left, I still find such comfort and beauty in the places and people I saw every day for so many years. There are things there that I would never see here, and in that their former ordinariness has taken on a sense of exotically familiarity. Colors look different there; people sound different; the grass and the trees and the skies are different.
Also different? The number of amazing old houses and farm buildings that have been left to whomever finds them. Their rusty tin roofs and weathered wood make my heart sieze up a little. Who doesn’t love a little shabby rural beauty? And the fields of hay, with their grazing horses, and the long lines of trees…these are things I will always be able to return to, even if I don’t see them in the same way I did when they were part of my daily life.
For my descent into nostalgia and the bowels of this abandoned house, I chose a dress that suited the burnished glory of the sun setting on the old South (not to be confused with “The Old South”). I love how the copper silk burns in the light. It reflects the perfect feeling of satisfaction in a place well known and well met.










Your mom did an amazing job on these photos. Also, I love that me, you and Lisa have this dress. We should all wear it at our next get together.
um, YES!!!!! we should wear it……or all style/post on the same days? plz?
Um…I actually have it, too (damn you H&M and your impulse-buy-inducing sales!). I haven’t worn it yet, but I’m totally in for some awkwardly awesome coordination!
Your setting, as well as your outfit, is absolutely stunning. I love rural settings and old houses.
Glad that you had a great time away from the routine, and love the reference to Thomas Wolfe, which actually brings me home, too — he was mentioned in the first lines of the movie “Now & Then,” which I watched obsessively when I was a little 10-year-old. (“Thomas Wolfe once said: You can’t go home again. Well, that’s great for old Tom, but he wasn’t a chick who made a pact with her best friends when she was 12 to get together whenever any one of them needed each other.”) I always associate Wolfe with Christina Ricci, summer popsicles and awesome treehouses.
I LOVE that movie!! My best friend and I used to watch it at least once a week when we were kids. I recently saw it again for the first time in years and it made my heart hurt.
Joann, I think we would be friends in real life. Please come visit me in Chicago.
We’ll watch Now and Then and eat giant graham crackers and talk to hobos. Best.visit.ever.
Yes, that would be the best visit ever! Ah, someday — I’ve actually never been to Chicago!
don’t you love the sleeves on that dress?? i am SO in love with your locations in these photos!
These are wonderful photos. What a dream location! And the color of that dress? Maybe I lived in Austin for too long, but I love the burnt orange.
The Auspicious Life
I didn’t know you lived in Austin! You should go to the Texas Style Council Conference there in March! A group of us from the Midwest are thinking of heading that way.
Oooooh but a chair is not a house! And a hoooouse is not a home! When there’s no one there to turn the key….!!!
Some Burt Bacharach for you. Sigh, sorry about that. Your mom takes excellent photos! And I an loving that gorgeous dress- it’s like it was made for you!
Beautiful photos! Yay for abandoned house-photoshoots. I love this dress on you (and Lisa & Tabitha!). Such a gorgeous color and AHHH the sleeves! When I tried it on it did funky things to my chest (darn it), but I love seeing others rock it.
These pictures are wonderful. They have just the right amount of nostalgia and fashionable modernity. You look amazing!
Love these shots! Abandoned houses always get me but the rich colour of your dress makes these even more amazing!
The color of that dress is really lovely. A perfect complement to the setting.
I love the dress, it seems so perfect for your home and the setting is great! When you see places like that around NYC you should avoid at all costs
What a stunning shoot! Love it. And the tones of your outfit look so great in the setting you chose.
Lookin’ gooood. Seriously, what a rad house. Though I kind of wish it was your house (only kind of, since that would be sad, but it would also mean that your parents are hobos). Hobocrews!
Seriously, it’s just stunning on you, and you do such a bang up job of making fancy dresses perfect for more casual everyday wear.
Love the dress. Beautiful pictures. I’m jealous! I loved this dress on Lisa and Tabitha, so I tried it on when I saw it marked down to $15, but I couldn’t make it work on me. Probably b/c the only sizes left were too big or too small. Anyway… You look great in this dress!
Lovely shots! I love going on road trips…I would love to do a day or weekend trip to Michigan soon- I love Saugatauk and South Haven. It’s nice to get out of the city for a bit
You look amazing in these shots. That color is REALLY good on you. And the shots themselves are phenomenal. The light! The haunting suggestions of nostalgia!
Such a beautiful environment…love how your outfit just flows into the scenery!
While I do love the shots in the house and Mom did an awesome job, I really think my favorite is the one with the hay bales. It’s just so pretty! But, I love the dress – the color works so well with your skin-tone and hair. What can I say…my sis is beee-youuu-tiful!
Oh, why thank you! And likewise! Your photos are coming up sooooon!!
A beautiful subject is never hard to photograph……even if I did lose my glasses somewhere, and took a “hobo” roll out of the house.
I am still amazed at how you knew just what color to choose to wear and just where to go.
I do say you could have left my photo out though
Thank you for the day……we had great fun.
Beautifully written post. In a sense, you can’t go back and yet, nothing will ever replace the familiarity you feel there. The green screen door photo would be my favorite of the bunch.
Oh my goodness, I know exactly what you mean about colors looking different! Even just Boston-t0-Virginia, I always feel a huge atmospheric difference when I go home.
These shots are absolutely beautiful, and capture that bittersweetness perfectly – the abandoned spaces really complement the romance of this dress, and the color couldn’t be working better with the quality of the light. Quite lovely, and a testament to your mom
the other emily
I have to say we need to give credit to the loan of a great camera from Andrea (Em’ sister)
I just looked and clicked……
The subject , the landscape and camera were made available to me.
So much fun
Ahhh! I love this so much. Goregous dress and photos. Well done!
What a lovely dress. It seems to fit in perfectly with your photos. By the way said photos are beautiful!
No Guilt Fashion
What awesome locations for your shoots… loving the door and green window pic’s! Your outfit is adorable!!! xoxo!
Thanks so much! And thanks for stopping by my blog. It’s always great to have an actual stylist weigh in on things.
fah-get the dress.. YOU look like fucking gold mama. All sultry and earthy and sizzling. meYOW.
Ps.. you totally should’ve let people on that it was your abode. It’s amazing what us stupid fashion bloggers will fall for these days.
BUA! I considered it, but decided I should just lay it all out there and not let people think my parents raised me in a house with, count ‘em, ONE wall. Then again, that straw did look pretty cozy. And all those newspapers means I’d never have lack reading material.
Thanks for the hilarious and ago-swelling compliments. Your are always the best!
Wowza this post is full of so much beauty! First you look gorgeous in that rust colored dress, it’s so fun and whimsical. And that setting, the old house and field are both incredible. This seriously looks like an editorial spread. I just pulled 4 of these photos to save in my inspiration folder
How fun to be so pleasantly greeted by home, too! xo